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The 5 concepts of bonding #connection #baby #bonding Bonding is a process

When it comes to bonding I think what it is important to remember is that bonding is a process. It is not a (pow) moment in which you are instantly bonded to your baby , there is not one magical action which will switch this "BONDING" on. Many new parents report immediate "bonding" after talking to their baby bump and a trouble free birth they hold their new baby and feel that bond and this bond only grows over time. Equally many parents after also talking to baby bump and anticipating the birth of their precious little one, report feelings of anxiety, overwhelm and lack of a bond. Both are perfectly normal and you have all you need to build a bond that will only grow. The bond between you and your baby will develop it is a journey, a (process) and an important one. BONDING is hugely important in the mental and emotional health of parent and child. When established the maternal and paternal bonds are by far the strongest bonds experienced and as humans beings and nothing can compare . The whole bonding process has baffled scientists for years. When a loving bond is formed it sets the foundations and forms the model for all of your baby's intimate relationships throughout life. This bond is the building blocks for all adult relationships. It also increases parents responsiveness and improves mood and relationships. Which is all good right ???

Unfortunately one of the most detrimental things to that bonding process is the myth that you will automatically experience this bond after birth, leaving parents who do not experience this initial rush of love feeling worried and unable to express their worry through fear of being judged. This could lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem as parents. Please hear me on this it's not unusual !

I have two children born within 2 years of each other and my bonding experience was such a vast contrast from one birth to another. Both times it was a journey That journey is amazing and beautiful and there are things that all parents can do to secure that loving bond. here are the five important concepts when it comes to bonding with your little one.

The power of touch (hold, cuddle, massage your baby)

Touch is the first sense your baby develops in the womb. It is a key element in the bonding process and positive touch is reassuring both to parent and baby. A new baby experiences their world through tactile experiences and being earth-side is a huge contrast to life in the womb. Just think baby goes from being constantly warm, rocked and fed, to something quite different after birth. Parents can make the transition a little easier ,by giving lots of loving touch. Hold your baby close, your baby is set and ready to bond with you. They were born craving your closeness and connection. Massage can be the perfect way to give all of that positive touch and reassurance to your baby.

The magic of scent

That's right smell is super important, more important than most of us realize! Who doesn't get that warm fuzzy feeling at the smell of a brand new baby? Research done by Porter in 1983 showed that an infant’s highly refined sense of smell immediately after birth helps it to identify its mother’s chemical signature and discriminate it against others. Kennell and Klaus’ research in 1983 also showe